OK, My father wasn’t really a pool man.
But, here is why I call him the “pool man.” It’s because of the time I found out that he was pouring bleach in the pool. His reasoning was, “it’s the same thing.”
My father just didn’t grasp the fact that even though chlorine and bleach, smell the same (his logic), and even though they are basically the same chemical compounds; they have different ph levels. (or something like that. I am not a pool man either.)
My father didn’t think he needed anyone, for anything, that he could do himself.
He didn’t need a pool man, a carpenter, a cable guy, a lawn guy, an electrician, etc… you get the picture.
My father relished the fact that he was a self made man. But the sad truth is, he didn’t really make all that much out of himself.
What my father never understood was the value of experience and expertise.
Experience and expertise have value.
Growing up, I was proud of being a self-made man. I was proud of being able to do things on my own. I never had to depend on anyone either, until I graduated college. That’s when I began to have obligations.
Now, they’re are many things I can do and actually do quite well. But, there are just some things that I can’t do or I’m just not good at. There are also things I don’t have time to learn. And you know what… I’m ok with that.
It doesn’t make me less of a person.
It makes me smart to utilize another person’s experience or expertise to help me grow.
I had to learn that.
And I wasted so much time!
This may sound crazy, but I actually used to think that having help was evidence that I wasn’t smart enough or good enough. Until, I got a business coach.
Through my journey of learning and growing, I realized that it was pride that my father was teaching me and not a sense of accomplishment.
The more I grew, the more I understood that those who were the best of the best had coaches, mentors, or teams of experts guiding and helping them. And the more I understood that, the more I got sad.
But it wasn’t just pride my father was hiding, it was fear.
Fear, that maybe he wasn’t as smart, or as able, or as resourceful as he thought he was. And it was that same fear that kept him from actually gaining the knowledge that he lacked. It was that same fear that kept him from learning from the experts, the very thing he was afraid that others would see.
And it was that same fear that I had to overcome
Having a coach or a mentor doesn’t meant that you are incapable or lacking.
Having a coach means that you want to excel, it means you are smart enough to know when to learn from the experts or gain their experience.
Don’t let fear or pride rob you of learning, growing, or becoming your best self.
And, from the echoing chorus of pool experts – please, don’t pour bleach in the pool. It’s not the same thing!
And if you don’t know the difference, ask the experts they will gladly tell you.
P.S Don’t forget, I offer a free, no pressure 30 minute Time Out session to jump start your success. Don’t waste any time like I did.
Now, I want to hear what you think in the comments below! Have you ever felt this way or am I the only one? For fun, do you have any similar crazy stories?