Make no mistake, I like to do nothing! I enjoy taking some time with no obligations, no expectations, no demands.
In the movie Office Space, the main character skipped a day off work. When his friends asked him what he was doing he replied, “I did nothing, and it was everything I thought it would be.”
I know that feeling!
But after a while, that gets boring. “Nothing”, for too long; bores me. It quiets me just long enough to remember the hunger. The hunger to be somebody, to accomplish something, to create beauty, to effect change; to do … something…anything!
And it is in between these two desires that the flotation line in the pool between the deep end and the shallow end is made.
We all have that constant struggle between doing nothing and doing something. The hunger is there. We all want to be the best. Even criminals want to be the best. Bernie Madoff wasn’t trying to steal just a few hundred dollars.
But, the hunger requires work, it requires risk, it requires fuel!
Doing nothing is easy, its comfortable, its familiar. And guess what? Most people are doing nothing. They have convinced themselves that “nothing” is safer. And to a certain extent, it is.
There is nothing wrong with doing “nothing”. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being content.
Contentment is a virtue. I advocate for contentment because it brings peace and balance.
But there are some of us who long to get out of Bedford Falls. We have a burning desire to do something, to do anything. And for most of us with that desire, we know exactly what that something is.
Why Haters Hate:
When you decide that the shallow end is no longer comfortable and you head for the deep end, things can get uncomfortable. Those who are content in the shallow end will support your decision. They may not understand, they may offer you advice but, if they are content; they will support your decision.
But those in the shallow end, who are not content. They are the ones that will become haters.
And guess what? It has nothing to do with you. Haters, in all actuality, do not care about you. Haters care about themselves.
Haters get mad at you because they also want to leave the shallow end. They are not content in the shallow end; but for whatever reason they are afraid to leave the shallow end.
When you leave the shallow end, it indicts them. It reminds them that they don’t have to accept “nothing” but through fear, pride, inaction, etc, they decide “nothing.”
Everyone has two choices and only two choices. They can choose to be content in the shallow end, which is a virtue; or they can head towards the deep end.
When they fail to make a decision, that is when they officially become a hater. When you leave the shallow end it eliminates one more excuse for why they cant leave the shallow end. Which reminds them that they are the ones holding themselves back. This makes them angry. And it doesn’t matter whether they don’t know how to leave or they are afraid to leave. They don’t want to be angry at themselves, so they direct it at you.
After all if everyone stayed in the shallow end, we could all forget about that silly deep end.
Why Winners Win
When you decide that the shallow end is no longer comfortable and you head for the deep end, you set in motion a chain of events.
- The shallow end is no longer an option. Once you decide that you are leaving the shallow end, it can never be the same again.
- You’ve changed your environment. The deep end requires a whole new skill set, a whole new way of thinking that does not exist in the shallow end.
- You’ve given in to the hunger. Once you’ve fed the beast nothing but success will satisfy it. It will not let you quit or go back.
- You have courage. Even though you may fall or falter, you do not fail because you can’t go back and in every failing you’ve learned what not to do.
Just a few takeaways.
Haters – Don’t be a hater. Anyone can become a hater. Either learn to be content or build up the courage to try. Be humble and maybe you can partner with someone else headed for the deep end.
Winners – Don’t be prideful. Let the haters motivate you to lead and don’t take it personal. Maybe your success can pave the road for them when they are ready.
The point is that we choose, we are the ones who make the decisions to be a hater or a winner. The pool doesn’t decide for us, the crowd doesn’t decide for us. We decide.