I hate writing these posts, I really do.
I loathe the emotions that I have, the feelings that I have, …. the fear that I have.
Its a very unsettling feeling. When your car is broken into or your house is broken into; the feeling that you aren’t safe where your supposed to be safe. You realize just how vulnerable you are.
Then we have a nagging, burning question… Why??
Quickly followed by … How??
Naturally, there will be much speculation, much debate, much reflection, much evaluation and reevaluation. Many people in many different fields will have those debates; mental health, legislation, law enforcement, media, sociologists, activists, and on and on….
My heart truly goes out to the victims families, and all those affected by tragedy who will have to live with scars, emotional and physical.
What does this have to do with success and why am I writing about this.
I am not going to play the blame game, there is one person to blame. I am not going to politicize this, that is absurd. I am not going to advocate for anything, that is not my mission.
During these ugly, difficult times, people are looking for answers. Not the answers they think they want, not the who’s, what’s, and why’s.
The real question is “How is something like this humanly possible?”
I am writing this to be that soft, strong, voice of comfort and assurance. To gently answer the real question on everyone’s mind “How can something like this happen?”
As a diligent student of Humanity, History, and Human Behavior, I try understand how humans tick.
I know that mankind is able to build great empires and civilizations that bring peace to untold millions, mankind is able to create art and music that can touch the depths of the human soul. Mankind is able to share goodwill towards each other that brings tears to the strong and strength to the weak.
Mankind is also able to devise death, devastation, and destruction which can endanger us all.
It is this paradox between good and evil that most of us live. Very few of us have devoted our entire lives to altruism, the good of mankind; likewise, very few of us have devoted our lives to depravity, the evil of mankind.
Somewhere in that spectrum we are a mix of our environment, our upbringing, our thoughts, our beliefs, our actions, and our biology.
Then a tragedy will occur that awakes us out of our reality.
We are confronted with evil.
One of the first things we do is to dehumanize the shooter, the molester, the bomber, the killer, etc. I can assure you that these actors are entirely, all too human. Make no mistake, these people are monsters, they are unfit for society, and for all intents and purposes are worthy of death. But they are, in fact, human. Just like us.
The next thing we do is to give them some extreme outlying excuse. Mental health, drugs, debt, religion, etc. Again, these are factors, I do not deny that. But one of the next steps of our processing is to separate the murder from ourselves by using some motive that is far removed from ourselves.
From there, we want to know what they did with their life. We need to know what kind of work the did, their relationships, their political views, their friends, etc. What we are trying to do is again to find that blame, to find that thing that makes them different from us.
What we are doing, as part of dealing with tragedies like this is removing ourselves far from evil.
We blame a religion that we would never be a part of. We blame an ideology we would never subscribe to. We blame a problem we would never have, a circumstance we would never be in, a video game we would never play, a movie we would never watch, and on and on…..
Because this person can’t possible be normal!!
As much as terrorism has increased and as much as mass shootings have increased, the odds are still relatively low that we will be a victim.
Yet we still fear.
Yet we still loathe.
What is it that we fear?
We fear the realization that evil is a part of our humanity
That any of us, at any time, are capable of evil. It’s part of our humanity. The halls of history are littered with the shameful cries of “I would never…”
You may be saying, “How dare you even compare me with these monsters!!!” I am not saying that at all.
What I am saying is that evil is part of the human condition of which we all share. Not that you would ever harm a fly.
The good news
Because, we are hard wired biological beings who posses a soul, imagination, and conscience we must resist the urges to relinquish control to our biological self and pursue our higher goals of the soul towards sharing goodwill, creating ideas, and bringing peace.
We all must be proactive in our lives, we must pursue success in life, in love, and in our professional endeavors. This is why I offer my audio training to Take Control of Your Life.
The answer to the question is that evil is part of our humanity and what we fear is ourselves.
We must take decisive action, in our day to day lives to succeed by default in pursuing the goals of our soul, our imagination, and our conscience. And in doing so, we shed a little more of that evil which is present in our humanity and make the world a better place.
What do you think? Let me know in the comments.